That may or may not include BDSM if only because the man is seeking a submissive partner. When I was still dating, I got a few emails from male doms looking for a female sub--something I didn't get when I didn't identify my race or lied and alleged that I was white or black.
The cure of the man looking for a geisha is a heavy dose of reality. I recommend a spreadsheet in place of spread eagle legs, showing how much it costs to support a real geisha.
Numbers, I know, can be boring and as Americans are historically lacking in math skills in comparison with most of the world, probably a better way is to show rather than tell.
There are two movies I recommend:
- "In the Realm of the Sense" which is inspired by the real case of Abe Sada or Sada Abe.
- "Audition" which is a movie that strikes terror in the hearts of many men.
Sada Abe was a Japanese woman born in 1905 and became famous, after a brief attempt at being a geisha, for cutting off the penis and testicles of her lover, Kichizo Ishida, in 1936. She kept those organs because she wanted a part of him that gave her vivid memories. They had been engaged in torrid sex and Ishida was stranged as a part of erotic asphyxiation--so during sex to intensify his pleasure.
Nagisa Oshima's 1976 "In the Real of the Senses" is about that incident and includes nudity, unsimulated acts of sex and violence. You can watch it on HuluPlus.
It should be noted that the woman who played Sada Abe (Eiko Matsuda) didn't enjoy a respectable film career, but the man (Tatsuya Fuji) was able to go on into legitimate films.
The 1999 "Audition" is based on a book by a man, Ryu Murakami. A widowed middle-aged man, Shigeharu Aoyama (Ryo Ishibashi) pretends to audition women for a movie, but is actually auditioning someone to date and be his new wife. His friend Yasuhisa Yoshikawa (Jun Kunimura), a film producer, helps him but has a bad feeling about the woman, Asami Yamazaki (Eihi Shiina) that Shigehara chooses.
Abe did it out of love. Others, like Ecuadorian-born Lorena Bobbitt, cut their lovers penis off out of spite. In Orange County (Garden Grove), Katherine Kieu, who was born in Vietnam, drugged her husband, cut off his penis and then threw it down the garbage disposal. That was in 2011. The couple had only been married 16 months. She was only recently sentenced to life in prison in June of this year.
In an earlier case in Guangzhou, Mainland China, a husband, Lin Mouru, suggested that he, his wife and their three kids live together with his mistress. That was in 2008. By 2009, his wife, Xie Mouman, asked for a divorce. He refused. She alleges that he threatened her and their kids. In February of 2009, she cut off his penis and then fled the scene. She was captured two days later. She was eventually sentenced to 10 years in prison.
You might be able to buy "love" but that unconditional love depends upon your bank account. Asian and Asian American women are not butterflies or chrysanthemums, but human beings who can be just as angry and bloody as other women.
